“What ARE They Actually Saying?”
How can you ensure that the information you receive is authentic
People share information that is important to them or
aligned with what they want to accomplish. They may share
something that is not factual, or share only partial information.
You need a process to understand what is being shared,
why it is being shared, and if it is
First, let’s understand these two facts:
The person asking questions is the person controlling the
conversation. In a courtroom, a doctor’s office, or dealing
with a teenager, why do they ask questions? The lawyer asks
questions to guide what the jury will hear. The doctor needs the
information to make a correct diagnosis. The teenager wants to
deflect the conversation away from his actions. They all want to be
When asked a question, most people will answer with what sounds
best or what they think you want to hear. Most people either
want to please you, protect you, make themselves look good, or
deceive you. If either of these motivations are present, their
answer will either be incorrect or only partially
You need these 3 bridge questions to get the real
In addition to…?
Here are two examples.
You ask an employee why they their task is incomplete. They share
an answer that you believe is incorrect. Then, you ask “In
addition to (what they told you) what other factor kept
you from finishing the task?” They answer that someone else did
not complete their task first. You ask “Other than the
other person not finishing, what else kept you from completing the
task? They answer that they did not have the correct tool. You
ask “Assuming that you had the correct tool, could you
have completed the task on time?” They answer yes. Now you have
the correct answer.
You are selling a riding lawnmower to a customer. You ask them to
buy. They reply that they just want to “Think about it.” You
ask “In addition to thinking about it, what else would
keep you from buying?” They answer that the price is more than
they want to pay. You ask “Other than the price, what
else would keep you from buying?” They answer that the seat is
uncomfortable. Then you ask, “Assuming that I can adjust
the seat to make it comfortable, is this the right model?” They
say yes. You adjust the seat to their satisfaction and proceed to
What examples can you share where these 3 bridge questions would be
helpful to you?
That is today’s Morning Minute.
Morning Minute: 11/03/23
“What Are We Doing To Our Children?”
We see the results every day!
Thousands of young people deny the atrocities committed on October
7th in Israel. They post on social media that all Jews must be
exterminated. They applaud the beheadings of children in front of
their parents, the torture and killing of parents in front of their
children, the brutal and repeated rapes of women, the burning alive
of families in their homes, and the taking of hostages to be used
as trading pawns or human shields.
Young people in large groups gather to loot stores, to terrorize
workers and shoppers. They attack, injure, and kill people for
“fun.” They attack police and police stations, injuring many, and
killing officers with no consequences. Carjacking is rampant. They
riot in major cities with no pushback from local, state, or federal
officials. Political leaders are afraid to act.
Speakers and entertainers who do not share the same views as the
administration or the students are not allowed to speak on campus.
Those who do show up are threatened and harassed. Tenured
professors, who cannot be fired, teach communism, discrimination,
and hate. Plus, they facilitate courses leading to degrees in
gender studies and intersectionality, while they support the
segregation of students by race, religion, and political
Students graduate from high school who can barely read nor
comprehend, cannot do simple math, cannot read cursive, cannot fill
out a check or a job application, and are unfit to hold a job.
Parents do not demand accountability of teachers, administrators,
and school boards. Politicians and parents alike take the path of
least resistance allowing children to grow up ignorant of our
founding, our national achievements, and all of our shared history,
both good and bad.
Our children grow up with no knowledge of right and wrong because
they are taught that everything is “relative to their
situation.” They are not held accountable for their behavior.
Children are indoctrinated at a young age to reject truth and
morality, even taught in preschool about sexuality and
God is banned from the classrooms, the playgrounds, the airwaves,
We see the results of what we have done to our children every
We cannot repair a problem unless we
see it clearly, and admit what we have
Having now identified the results, we will address the root causes
in Part 2 of this three part series of Morning
Please repost or forward this message. It is time for a national
“What Are We Doing To Our Children?”
And, that is today’s Morning Minute.