“Who is Teaching
During a panel
discussion, this question was asked: “Who has the greatest
influence in shaping public opinion: the educational system, the
entertainment industry, or the church?”
agreed that influence begins early in life. By the time children
reach school age, they have already been subjected to relentless
messaging designed to steer them in a predetermined
that the educational system was most influential. From story hour,
to beginner’s books, to classroom videos, children are taught to
believe certain things. As they get older, this “learned”
information is reinforced by books, classroom discussion, and more
videos. The consensus was that most parents were unaware what their
children were being taught.
the entertainment industry was more influential. They cited how
songs, movies, television, and social media shaped public opinion
at an early age. These messages are everywhere there is a phone or
computer screen. Because there is so much information on so many
platforms, parents cannot control the messaging their children
that the church seemed to be the least influential due to the small
amount of time spent at services, in Sunday school, or studying the
scripture to learn discipline and morality.
then turned to the role of parent’s influence on their children.
Training of these youngsters begins at birth. They read to them,
sharing stories with them. They demonstrate how to be truthful,
responsible people. Utilizing both love and discipline, they
instill in them respect for others and for themselves. Mothers and
fathers set the example of how responsible, moral men and women
behave as adults. With both time and access, parents should have
the greatest influence on their children.
parents having a more positive influence in shaping the opinions of
children? Is the trend toward single parent households robbing the
children of quality time with their parents? Have many parents
decided rather than teaching their children, they hand them off to
government schools to be educated? Why is it becoming less
acceptable for parents to enlist the aid of clergy and churches to
assist in teaching morality and responsibility?
By starting early
in their children’s lives, parents have the best opportunity to
show how that character, honesty, and morality will guide their
children to become responsible, disciplined adults. In so doing,
they WILL have the greatest influence on the opinions and actions
of our future citizens.
“Who is Teaching
That is today’s
“Why Do You
People ask lots
Who? What? When?
Where? Why? How?
Let’s analyze why
people ask questions.
The reasons for
asking questions usually fall into one of three
Reason #1: Asking
as a request for information. A shopper at the
mall asks for directions to a certain store. A student asks the
teacher to explain some information. A worker asks the manager how
best to perform their job. You ask Google just about anything. Each
of these is simply a request for information.
Reason #2: Asking
either to choose or to eliminate. This tactic is
used to narrow and/or to eliminate options. A person shopping for a
computer asks the salesperson if the unit will perform a certain
function. The answer allows the buyer to continue looking at the
item or eliminate it from consideration. That same shopper knows
the answer and asks the question anyway. If the salesperson answers
the question dishonestly, the buyer will move on to someone else or
move on to a different product. These questions are used to choose
or to eliminate.
Reason #3: Asking
in order to take control. It is widely
understood by professionals that the person asking questions
controls the conversation.
For example: You
are a witness in a courtroom. The lawyer asks you a series of
questions. Who is in control? The lawyer! Another example: A
teacher asks you a question. Then, uses your answer to make a point
to the class. The teacher has control! Another example: A
salesperson asks a client shopping for a new mattress, “Is
comfort, style, or price more important to you?” The
salesperson has control! And finally, a parent asks the teenager
who used her car yesterday, how the scratch got on her car. Without
answering, the teen then asks the parent, “How did you enjoy
your dinner date last night?” When the parent answers, the teen
has just taken control. This is a classic tactic: taking control,
by changing the subject, by asking a question, instead of answering
Why should you
learn how to determine the motive of the person asking questions?
Understanding their motive is essential in choosing how you will
Your answer will
be dictated by whether you believe the person is simply seeking
information, is trying to make or eliminate a choice, or is
attempting to control the conversation.
“So, Why Do You