“Your Habits Create Your Destiny!”
What IS your destiny?
In “The Six Pillars of Intimacy,” Alisa DiLorenzo shares:
“Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they
become actions. Make sure you watch your actions, because they
become habits. Watch your habits, they become character. Watch your
character, it becomes your destiny!”
American psychologist, William James stated: “You’re not what
you think you are, but what you think…you are!”
These quotes contain pearls of wisdom for creating your destiny,
and the life you will enjoy. Start with your thoughts. Either you
control your thoughts or they control you. For example, knowing you
must decide, but thinking you may fail, your thoughts lead to
failure. Concentrating on what you will gain, you are more likely
Your thoughts create a mental picture. Based on that mental
picture, you make a commitment to take action. The commitment you
make, and the action you take, will affect both you and others.
Based on the effects of your decision, you must have the discipline
to either repeat, alter, or discontinue your action.
Continue that action often enough and it becomes a habit. Habits
are simply repeated actions we employ without the need to rethink
them. They may be good or bad habits, based on the results. You
need discipline in order to create good habits or to change bad
habits. Discipline requires you to do what is right even when
unnecessary, so when it becomes necessary, you automatically do
what is right.
Having the discipline to develop good habits creates character.
Character is defined as, “The mental and moral qualities
distinctive to an individual.” Mental refers to our
thoughts. Moral refers to what we believe is right. So, what we
think, and what we believe, defines our character. Our character,
whether good or bad, will determine our destiny.
In the movie, Forest Gump asks his mother, “What is my
destiny?” She replied: “I believe you make your own destiny.
You’ve got to do the best with what God gave you!” Using the
talents and personality God gave you to control your thoughts,
decisions, commitments, and actions will create good habits. Having
the discipline to make good decisions, even when they are hard,
creates in you the character that controls your
Your thoughts create actions that are affected by your commitments
and decisions. Using discipline to create habits that are aligned
with your character will determine your destiny!
That is today’s Morning Minute.
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“Focused, Firm, & Flexible?”
How are these compatible?
When beginning a new project or responsibility, it is imperative to
be laser focused on what results are expected of you, plus
what you expect for yourself. These results will be what you must
focus on. Post them in multiple places to remind you of their
Then, work backward from those expected results until you arrive at
where you are now. What steps must be completed, in what order, to
achieve those results? That will be your action plan. First comes
the goal. Then work backwards to formulate your
For example, you want to train new team members to achieve
proficiency in their jobs. First, you must demonstrate what that
proficiency looks like. Then, working backward, you share with them
the functions they will be required to learn. It is your job to
teach, and their job to learn, the skills required for proficiency.
You must be focused until those results are
Be firm as you monitor the progress of these team members.
They must put forth the necessary effort to learn the skills
required to achieve proficiency. Your firm direction will
keep them on a path of continuous improvement, resulting in their
Changing processes, products, and events may create opportunities
disguised as problems. You must be flexible enough to pivot,
making the changes required, to take advantage of these
Years ago, I was assigned as GM to a dealership with multiple
franchises that had been barely profitable. For 2001, our
leadership team set a BHAG (Bold, Hairy, Audacious, Goal) for net
profit for that year. Each team was responsible for achieving their
stated share. The managers analyzed their 4 Ps, people, process,
product, and promotion to determine what steps, in what order, must
be taken to achieve their forecast. They were laser focused
on massive increases in sales while reducing expenses. Plus, they
were quite firm that customer service and teamwork would not
be sacrificed as they worked toward their shared
Due to the 9/11 terrorist attacks our sales dropped over 50%. In
answer to this event and to take advantage of 0% financing from
GMAC, we were flexible enough to make a quick 48 hour pivot.
Our flexibility allowed us to change our “go-to-market” strategy 25
– 30 days before our competition could adjust. Being
focused, firm, and flexible made our 2001 a
“Focused, Firm, & Flexible!”
That is today’s Morning Minute.